Lisa Finn, a sex educator for Babeland, hopes that every woman. Masturbating is a rite-ofpassage that. But paradoxically, all this revolutionary language only reinforces the old ideas. They are not looking to make friends or go on a date — these are acts of revenge. Why is it more empowering to masturbate in a quick moment—and I do mean moment—with no thought of lust and without any harm to your body?